#YesAllWomen
by fmhilton
In the last week, I’ve been reading and posting under the Twitter hashtag of #YesAllWomen.
For those who don’t have twitter or who haven’t been reading it, here’s a compendium of my own personal tweets from it. All of them are my favorites.
Many of them have been retweeted more than a few times and I think this is a good place to let them stand on their own.
because it’s still stunning to see how many men are offended that women actually speak up. Did we have to ask for permission?
do the dead female victims of domestic abuse “ask for it”? Sure, they wanted to die, didn’t they?
Still true: All women want is for men to stop hurting them emotionally, physically, verbally and mentally. We deserve no less.
because women deserve dignity and respect.
because being called a feminist shouldn’t be an insult.
because if men had to put up with a fraction of what women do, they’d be pissed, too,
because rape jokes are funny only to men…
Is it ever possible to defend your belief in feminism without being called a ‘feminazi”?
Men: are you uncomfortable, or angry enough yet? if you are, that’s the point. If you’re not, keeping reading.
“Why do they hate us?” “Because we’re women and not men.They don’t understand us.”
because “feminist’ is not a swear word.
because if women ever did the same things men do to women, we’d be either dead or in jail. Equality? I don’t think so.
because if we express an opinion we’re ‘crazy’, ‘hysterical’, or have PMS.
because our virginity is rated higher than our intelligence.
because honor killings and female genital mutilation exist in the 21st century.
because women should not have to justify their existence.
because my entire life is not dedicated to making men feel comfortable.
because most male abusers state “Nobody else will ever have you. You’re mine until death.” and mean it.
because many men think it’s all about them. It’s not. It’s about us, and they don’t like it.
because women are still sold to men in marriage, and killed if they refuse.
repeat after me: “Rape is not about sex. Rape is about power and violence. Rape is a crime.”
because when you hurt a woman, you only degrade yourself.
After thousands of tweets, some people still think there’s no problem? I’d say there is.
because girls are killed for trying to get an education.
because when we state facts, we’re whiny victims, who just need to shut up.
because silence is not an option.
because in India and China, girl fetuses are aborted because they’re female.
because sometimes the best person for the job is a woman.
because rape is not about sex. It’s about power and violence.
because if men feel threatened by this, they should look in the mirror to see why.
because rape is never consensual.
because a woman’s place is everywhere.
because our existence shouldn’t depend on men’s acceptance.
because we’re half of the planet and deserve better!
because little girls are still being kidnapped by Boko Haram.
because if you’re not angry, you’re not paying attention.
because being a female isn’t enough to be considered a human being.
fmhilton 
I don’t support abuses of any sort. Women and men are not equal but that does not mean one should be treated less. There are many aspect of female are better and stronger then male and vise versa. We are two different kind with in the same kind. There are no equality in this world. It is human nature to have foot down on some one.. men on women, rich on poor.. employee on employer.. this is how the world work.
If someone drags you against your will or drug you and fuck you..sure, that is a rape. you can’t get drunk and decide to fuck and then call it rape. you need to let slide the following.. men asking you or trying to get with you. men checking you out. let these shit go.. this is what men are wired to be.. this is our biological programing of things. sex is a primary focus of men..see, i don’t even know you..and i don’t even know if you are a woman or a man, but i assumed you are woman and thought how it would be to fuck you. What i am saying is, don’t try to fight nature. let go of little things and focus on the big ones.
The solution: it is wired in most that sex or anything sexual is a taboo and a sin. let go of your religious beliefs about it and be free. when you have kids, tell them it is not a sin and express it without fear or guilt.. If everyone to grow that way. what it does it eliminate the negativity about sex in your thoughts, the frustration would not get build up, except the the serial rapist.. there will be no sexual crimes. And women will not have this negative feelings Evey time some guy make a move on them. it would be a norm.
the cultures that are open about sex and have no taboo about it has less crimes regarding this matter.
Yes, it is human nature at play in a lot of this stuff. But it does not have to dictate to men or women that the ‘natural order’ of things has to be so violent and stark. When women experience harassment, violence or oppression clearly aimed at them and the gender, it’s very hard to tell a woman ‘to let it go’. What one experiences in life shapes one’s life..and every experience, good and bad, have a greater impact on the life lived.
Because women are perceived as the ‘weaker sex’ by still too many men, we’re often chastised by men for daring to talk out of turn, to talk back, to take jobs that men used to do. We’re deemed to be ‘lezzies’,’bitches’ and other vile names for daring to even discuss the things we have done or seen in our lives. Sometimes it becomes tragic and women have died from this.
It’s not always about sex, either. It’s sometimes (and more often than not) about power-to hurt, abuse or ‘show that bitch who’s boss’ with men. Some men don’t understand that sex is not the driving force behind rape. It’s power and violence. So when we complain that men are looking at us too much, we’re actually scared that these same men are capable of killing us, or raping us-and sometimes we’re right, to our anguish.
Yes, it’s a complex and many sided argument. But the first step is for men to ask a woman honestly why she feels the way she does, and how she came to feel this way.
It takes a lifetime of being a female to get this far and know that there are millions of young women who have to experience first hand the far too common life that all women have.
I’m 59 this week. I’ve see an awful lot of things in my life, and every single post in the #YesAllWomen thread just reminds me of what I’ve lived myself. I grew up in an era before Roe v.Wade(actually turned 18 the same month it was issued) and I know first hand what it’s like to be a woman back then. We have gained a lot in 40 years, but not enough.
Thanks for your response. I know it’s hard to talk to a woman on a first hand basis, but it’s a first step to understanding one another.
Peace be with you.
FM Hilton
Read every single post on #yesallwomen and they all have something to do with sexing or sexual nature. Not a single thing about qualified females not getting chosen over their male counter parts. How about, men leaving women to raise kids alone without even financially supporting them? How many post out there about these sort of things? instead, ” I have to watch my back at night when i am walking home”.. you want to know the truth? I watch my back at night when I am walking.. if i see a group of guys, i walk the other way to avoid them.
There are posts (I even did one) where men are chosen over women to be promoted when the woman was far more qualified..there are posts where women are hurt that men leave them for others..and their families. It’s sad that it has to be expressed in 140 characters without followup.
Injustice follows misogyny-when a man sometimes gets what he wants, he gets it at the expense of a woman.
And I know there are men who are afraid to be out late at night, because there are fellow men out there who are evil enough not to care about other people.
Peace be with you.
FM Hilton